In the ordinary course of events, ‘bad’, unhappy events are always entwined with good, happy ones. The ‘butterfly effect’, whereby even very small, seemingly inconsequential events totally change the course of big ones as well, (i.e. A butterfly flapping its wings in one place, can be the cause of a hurricane a thousand miles away), means that none of the good events that occur in one’s life would occur if not for the unpleasant ones, (although, admittedly, other good events could indeed occur) For instance, one may suffer the untimely death of a close relative, & then, as a result of the way that takes one from one’s usual, everyday train of thoughts, perhaps putting one in a more emotionally sensitive & sad mood, & taking one out of one’s usual schedule, happen to encounter a girl who resonates with one’s depression at a dreary coffee house, who turns out to be a great love of one’s life. Or, one might go completely awry from one’s course in life by taking the wrong course at university, & still happen to meet such a girl a few years later, so that it becomes difficult to resent one’s ‘wrong’ path due to the overwhelming, positive feelings one has for her. Unless a total calamity occurs, like sustaining a serious head injury that renders one a semi-idiot, the Universe tends to have a way of balancing itself out & redeeming itself overtime if one is only receptive to its gifts. By paying attention to this central fact of our existence, drinking it in & contemplating it in a leisurely & tranquil fashion over the course of the natural passage of time, we can come to a state whereby we are able to embrace the entire Universe, in its eternal marriage of necessary events, of joy & sorrow, in the ecstatic attitude which Nietzsche called Amor Fati; a far deeper and profounder joy than any mere transitory event can ever by itself provide Though it will probably not be particularly popular to say this, it may also be very helpful to pay attention to this way of thinking in the moral sphere, in order to combat excessive indignation which is one of the chief causes of unhappiness & objection to life. If one thinks about it carefully, the force with which people cry out against the misery of the world can at times be a little hypocritical, since unless the world had problems, i.e. unhappiness of some sort, there would be little left to accomplish. That is one of the central conundrums that much maligned post-modern movement sought to come to grips with, & it should not be scorned. The absence of anything left to do, to achieve, could easily be seen as a tragedy as a great as any in human history, which may strike the heart of mankind which has for thousands of years be accustomed to the ‘conquest of nature’ in the name of the betterment of mankind as a cause for unmitigated nihilism. Unless there was hardship, kindness itself would lose its premium. Without understanding this central fact, one understands nothing about the world today, whose problems themselves are largely the product of this excess & surfeit of beneficient resources, which goes against our very Nature, that sagely whispers its counsel: “poverty is the mother of resource”. Turn negatives into positives.

Don’t Be Bossed About By Others But Conform When Really Necessary

It is never healthy to submit to another’s order, or emotional pressure, unless there are physical repurccusions to refusing to do so, or one actually enjoys it. It is never moral to be cowed by someone else when one’s instincts rebel against it. If they are trying to cow you into doing ‘what is right’, which they usually are, the previous sentence remains nevertheless100% true, since the premise of all moral actions is autonomy & fearless courage, & it is virtually impossible that the enaction of any single duty could be more important that the development of those intrinsically desirable & moral character traits. So it is, that precisely the thing that everyone else is telling you is “wrong” and sending signals not to do, is precisely what you must & ought to do, i.e. be true to yourself &learn to ignore & scoff at their intimidation & blame tactics. Someone who has already been unfortunate enough to attract psychiatric attentions, however, will unfortunately be under constant assessment to see if they are simply meeting up to other people’s expectations & standards, however frivilous, with very serious repurccusions for failing to ‘comply’. Thus, for a poor ‘mental patient’, it is extremely important & very difficult to seperate the essential from the non-essential when it comes to submitting to others people’s desires, because you are basically under Martial Law on that front. I simply recommend to take a bow, grit your teeth & conform, & gradually work your way out of that sticky fly trap into regaining the respect and trust of your oppressors, & with it regaining your liberty. At the same time, for the sake of your own sanity & development, it is equally imperative to bear in mind the first point, which is that there is nothing ‘moral’ about submitting to other people’s dictates in itself; it merely makes you a slave & breeds inward resentment which you will take out on others in hidden ways. So, you must endeavour to take back your pride gradually. Don’t be bossed around by others (but conform when really necessary.)